[Ed. note: Sassy has once again called us out on our pathetic lack of posting. But I sense with the holidays having arrived, much shenanigans with the Glamour Girls will ensue and good stories will be right around the corner. In the meantime, enjoy what our guest blogger extraordinaire has to say!]
My single girlfriends and I have been experiencing a new trend in dating that we're not too happy about. We are getting asked out on dates via text message. And we don't like it.
Yes, I know, text messaging is the new "it" thing. And while I am not opposed to sending text messages for short messages ("meet me in 10"), or times when you can't actually talk on the phone ("in the bathroom on date--he's hot!"), or when you just have a stupid comment to make ("I'm sooo drunk!") or the newest version of phone sex ("what are you wearing?"), when it comes to an important conversation, shouldn't an actual conversation actually take place?
I can understand asking the intial question for the first date over texting. Texting makes it much easier to say something that you're nervous about. So, if a guy's not sure if the girl is interested, a text is the easier route. Fine. But when it comes time to actually plan the date, the when, the where, I want an actual conversation. And by the time I've gone out on 3 dates with a guy, I should have had more than one phone conversation with this guy.
Instead, I'm getting a text message asking if I want to go out, and a text message a few days later telling me when and where to meet my date.
So, yesterday, I asked a guy friend of mine what the story is. I wanted to know if this is something that guys all find acceptable, so I'm going to have to accept it, or if I've just been giving some loser guys too much credit and letting this slide when I shouldn't be.
Why do guys do this? His initial response, "You have to remember, men are simple." Good point.
According to him, men don't think about the fact that they're not actually dialling a phone anymore. They're just dong what's simplest.
He also said that this is a safe way of asking out a girl if he's insecure or unsure of how interested she is. He also said that, ideally, the more comfortable a guy gets and the more sure he is of the girl's interest, the more likely he will be to actually dial the phone instead of texting.
So, on his advice, I'm willing to give guys a break--for a while. After the first few dates, though, if he's still texting and not calling (a combo of the two is just fine)--then it will become af factor in deciding what I think of the guy.
